Lynne Osborn, Extension Educator
University of Nebraska Cooperative Extension
Work with children instead of against them. When old furniture is refinished, we are told to always rub with the grain of the wood. Perhaps we should also work "with the grain of the child!"
Stand back and watch children. Then decide the best way for them to do what they are trying to do. This can sometimes turn a conflict into a pleasant (or at least acceptable) experience.
What environmental changes can you make to work with the child in the following examples?
Five-year-old Jose wants to help his mom fix dinner. He doesn't want to watch television or ride his tricycle.
Thirteen-month-old Kim turns her head away when offered food on a spoon. If the food is put on her tray, however, she digs in with both hands and happily eats.
Eight-year-old Michael announces he only likes three foods: hamburgers, French fries and ice cream.
Jenny and Kristy want to play with play dough.
This week, make some environmental changes that will allow you to work with, instead of against, your child.
After you have tried making some changes, call the Dundy County University of Nebraska Cooperative Extension at 423-2021 or 800-485-0219 or e-mail losborn1@unl.edu.
Source: Parenting Your Child Effectively, NF02-530, by Marilyn Fox, extension educator, University of Nebraska Cooperative Extension.
