TIPS For Families

Helping your teen through the physical changes of adolescence

Written by:  Maria de Guzman, PhD, Adolescent Development Extension Specialist, University of Nebraska-Lincoln Extension
Building Strong Families

Adolescence or the teen years is a period of dramatic change and transition. While rapid development is happening in various domains (e.g., in thinking skills, social relationships), the most obvious changes occur in the physical domain.

For teens, the physical changes can be confusing, and even anxiety provoking. As parents, it is important that you do what you can to help your child through the physical transitions of this period.

1)      You and your child should learn the facts.  Teens who are aware of what to expect tend to be less anxious, and often positively anticipate the physical changes. There are many sources available to learn what those physical changes will be and when they will happen (e.g., health books, websites, Extension).  Look up information on the growth spurt or the rapid increase in height/weight, the re-shaping of the body, as well as development of primary (e.g., growth in the genital area for boys, and internal organs for girls) and secondary (e.g., pubic hair, breasts for girls) sex characteristics.

2)      Emphasize that the changes are normal and that others will go through them, too.  Some changes can evoke embarrassment and even teasing from peers. For example, boys’ nocturnal emissions (wet dreams) are normal, as are first period, hair growth, acne and body odor.  Make sure communicate that all those changes are NORMAL and that there is no shame in them.

3)      Discuss hygiene and other practices to deal with the changes. Make suggestions about cleanliness – especially for dealing with nocturnal emissions and menstrual periods, and body odor.  Offer to discuss other practical issues like undergarments, how to deal with body hair, and other changes.

4)      Finally, try to encourage communication.  Questions will inevitably emerge and your teen should know that you are there for them. And while you might not know all the answers, you are willing to help them find resources or others who would know.

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