TIPS For Families

Written by: Kathleen Lodl
University of Nebraska-Lincoln Extension

Good sportsmanship is something that most of us would like to see children develop as a result of taking part in a sport or other extracurricular activities. WE all know the experience becomes more civil and enjoyable when everyone shows respect to each other. As we’ve seen on and off the playing field, civility, fair play and teamwork do not automatically happen; it takes effort and a plan.

Parents play an important role in the experience of their child in competitive events. Their involvement is key to a successful outcome. Showing interest and support can lead a child to greater enjoyment and greater participation in the activity. At the same time, walking the fine line between being supportive and becoming over-involved can be a challenge.

Here are some ideas to help encourage good sportsmanship with your children:

• Expect and reinforce good sportsmanship with your child. Point out and reward good sportsmanship. Have a plan for dealing with poor sportsmanship.
• Model sportsmanship. Discuss how you personally show sportsmanship. Describe how you can show respect to the opponent by shaking their parent’s hands after the event. Describe the good feelings you get from being a good sport yourself.
• Discuss the headlines. When you watch TV or read the newspaper, point out actions related to sportsmanship. Ask your child what they think of competitors who “showboat” or about the cost to the team for a technical foul. Look for examples of positive behavior as well.
• Read books together with a sportsmanship theme. Particularly younger children, you can use this time to discuss examples of good sportsmanship and poor sportsmanship behaviors.
• Make sure that you and your child know the rules of the event. When you know the rules of competition, you can help your child to follow the rules as well.
• Emphasize good sportsmanship at home. Games or contests at home are great family activities. Keep sportsmanship in-line during these activities. Watch for teachable moments when your family is engaged in competition.

Select two of these and try them out for the next month.  You may be surprised at the difference you Through example and conscious teaching, parents can help their child to have a positive experience in their activity and to become a good sport.  For more information about sportsmanship visit:  http://greatfansgreatsports.com/; for more information like this about parenting and families, visit: http://unlforfamilies.unl.edu/.

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