TIPS For Families

One of the most important parts of parenting is showing love to our children.  From the time they are babies, through their elementary school days, high school years, and yes, even into adulthood, they need our love and encouragement.  They need to hear us sat, “You’re wonderful!  I love you!” 

Four ways to show your love for your children include: 

1. Smiles.  Your smile shows your love.  Think about how many times a day you smile at or with your child.  Are smiles part of your daily routine?  Do you smile more than you frown? 
2. Hugs and kisses.  Your hugs and kisses show love.  Sometimes we need the most love when we are the least loveable.  How many times do you usually hug and kiss your child on an average day?  When do you hug and kiss your child?
3. Listening.  Listening shows love to children…without watching TV, reading, talking on the phone or gazing out the window.  How often do you really listen to your child each day?
4. Kind supportive words.  The words parents say to their children are vital communication links.  Words can either bind parent-child relationship closely together or they can tear them apart.  Words can be determining factor in the harmony or lack of harmony in the home environment.  How many times do you praise your child in a typical day?

A special way of showing love is to write notes to your children stating or showing your love.  Notes are concrete ways to show your support and love and many times your children will save these written treasures to read over and over.  Another way is to have patience with your children.  Take time to cool off before reacting.

Someone once said, “As soon as I walk into a house, I get the feeling of a family.  I look at their faces to see if they are smiling at one another.  I listen to what they say, hoping I will hear words of praise, not put-downs.  I watch to see how they move about and interact with another.  If love is in this home, I feel good.  If I do not sense this accepting and understanding of family members, I want to get out as soon as possible.” 

How would that person feel, walking into YOUR home?  Work on making sure Love is in Your Home.

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